We donâ€™t call being a parent the toughest job on earth for nothing, do we? Any parent knows that this job can very well take all that youâ€™ve got to give â€“ and then some. New parents will also learn â€“ very quickly, I must add â€“ that they will be judged no matter what they do. From feeding habits to toys to education â€“ these issues will always be raised, and controversy is not far behind. Here are some of the top parenting issues today (at least based on my experience) and what I think of them. Donâ€™t hesitate to join in the conversation and let me know what you think!
Iâ€™ve already written a post on this, and I know just how divided parents are over the issue. Some experts say that spanking can cause children to become more aggressive as adults, while others think that disciplining them in this manner can make them understand the principle of consequences. I lean towards the latter, as long as it is clear that the emphasis is on discipline and not punishment. I know a LOT of people who were spanked as kids and turned out pretty well as adults. 😉
Ahh, children need their own beds and their own bedrooms, right? Proponents of co-sleeping highlight the fact that children do need a psychological blanket, and parents serve as that. However, co-sleeping presents various problems: risk of asphyxiation for young kids, too much dependency, etc. I think that co-sleeping is fine from time to time, but it must not become a habit. You would want your kids to grow up learning how to sleep alone, wouldnâ€™t you?
#3: Medication for behavioral problems
These days, a lot of children seem to be diagnosed for ADD and other similar problems. There are doctors who will not hesitate to prescribe medication to treat certain conditions. Should you immediately take their advice? I am a staunch believer in the power of medicine, but I would hesitate if my child were to be prescribed medication for behavioral problems. Iâ€™ll get a second, even a third, opinion; and then look for treatment options that do not involve medication.
#4: Breast feeding
The general consensus is the breast feeding is still best for babies (and mommies). Medically speaking, there is no point for debate. However, breast feeding simply doesnâ€™t work for some women. My take is that we should breast feed when we can, and if it doesnâ€™t work, then use formula. Simple.
#5: Underage drinking
My stand on this is very clear: no alcohol till youâ€™re of age. Some parents bank on the premise that the kids are going to do it outside of the house anyway, so might as well allow them to do it at home. At least they can keep an eye on the kids, right? I donâ€™t buy that, do you?
So, letâ€™s get the ball rolling. What are your thoughts on these issues?