Women become mothers the minute that they find out they are pregnant. Even though they may not be holding a physical baby in their arms yet, their maternal instincts kick in and they start to build their frame of thinking and doing all around the new life inside of them.
In many women, the urge of maternal instinct is so strong within them that they can tend to dive head first into caring for their children completely, taking care of finances, cooking for them, keeping them safe, running a household, and yet forgetting to take care of themselves too. After a certain amount of years of being a mother and forgetting to nurture themselves as well as their little ones, the results can be loneliness, frustration, and eventually empty nest syndrome.
It is important to love your children with all of your heart but also love yourself and remember that you are not only a mother but a woman too. Here are some of the best tips for keeping the balance between your feminine and individual spirit with your role as a mother and protector.
Take Time To Feel Beautiful
When you are a busy mom on the go sometimes you just don’t have the option to take time for your perfect winged liquid eyeliner like you used to when you were 20. Before kids, you had the luxury of taking an hour to intricately perfect your hair and change your clothes 16 times until you looked just right.
Life can get so hectic as a mom that sometimes you don’t even look at what you are throwing on. Before you know it you’re in the minivan wearing mismatching socks, sweatpants with yogurt stains and yet a car full of pristine looking children dressed and primped to perfection.
Make sure that you take the time once in a while to take care of yourself too. Whether this means going to get a massage, getting your hair done, or simply taking a bath. Do what it takes to make yourself also feel as if you are taken care of and look your best.
See Your Friends More Often
Don’t forget that even though your kids need you, you need to be able to have time to be a human too! Make sure to preserve the friendships that you have and take the time to see your friends once in awhile for some good old fashioned adult conversation.
Try to make an effort to see your friends at least once a month. Even if it is just to talk about motherhood!
Be True To Yourself
There can be a lot of pressure on mothers to be perfect. We feel we can’t do the same things we used to be able to do before becoming a mother or can’t make the same jokes in fear that it will be perceived as “inappropriate.”
Don’t worry about what others think. As long as you cherish and care for your children and show them how to be good people, it’s okay to let out a swear word once in a while or tell a naughty joke. Be true to who you are!