Teens aren’t the easiest kinds of humans on earth. They can be emotionally unstable, often volatile, and in many cases, seek negative attention. They seem to believe that they know all of the answers, and see themselves as invincible. All the while being incredibly insecure. It’s enough to drive you nuts!
Usually, this rebellious “know it all” period of their lives tapers off by about age 19. However, some teenagers may be more difficult than others. They are dead set on challenging authority and engaging in risky behaviors. In some cases, it may be because they’re enduring a difficult experience like going through a divorce.
Or perhaps they are just hormonally charged and seek chaos. Whatever the reason may be, there are methods for dealing with them as effectively as possible. With a little patience and effort on your part, you may be able to successfully handle your difficult teenager by following these tips.
Identify The Problem
Whether you’re dealing with a rambunctious teenager or a grouchy toddler, the first step to getting through to them is to identify what the problem is. There may be a deeper issue lurking below the surface, which is attributing to their naughty behavior.
Once you have a better idea of what’s causing the upsetting behavior, the more compassion you can start to have. You may change your approach depending on what is really going on.
Don’t Allow Them To Push Your Buttons
One thing that teens are famous for is trying to get a rise out of you. They love pushing buttons and trying to get you to stoop to their level.
When these moments arise, it’s more critical than ever that you stand your ground and refuse to allow yourself to be provoked. When you feel yourself starting to be upset, take a deep breath before you potentially make the problem even worse.
Set Clear Boundaries
One of the biggest reasons why teenagers frustrated their parents is because they demand more independence. However, despite how much they may protest, it’s vital that you set boundaries.
Consistent boundaries help strengthen your relationship with your teen. Rules should be applied consistently. Letting down your guard even once risks them trying to push your limits again.
As their parent, it’s vital that you are an effective leader. When you’re dealing with a difficult teen, it’s important to assert your position as the leader. One of the best ways to do that is to use assertive language.
No is no. Don’t give into negotiations or resistance. Stand your ground and don’t allow them to make you believe that they’re in charge.
Ultimately, it’s important to remember that you were once a teenager too. By having a little compassion and empathy, you’ll eventually find your way.
Originally posted on October 22, 2019 @ 10:00 am