How many times have you heard or uttered the phrase â€œGrow up?â€ I suppose that you can not count. This phrase is often used in a wide variety of contexts. Yet what does grow up really mean? What does it mean to be grown up? If you are of legal age and you have children, does that necessarily mean that you are all grown up?
Well, if you were to ask author John Cheetham, parents are not necessarily â€œgrown up.â€ This author from Melbourne has a new book called â€œGrow Up! How to raise an adult by being one yourselfâ€ and in it, he challenges parents to quit behaving like overgrown children and start acting their age. I donâ€™t have a copy of the book as of yet but the information presented in News.com.au has gotten my interest. Hereâ€™s a sampling:
He says parents should stop drinking, smoking, swearing and losing their temper – particularly when driving. He thinks parents are too over-emotional, too over-protective and over-react to their teens’ faults. “The most important thing is to remember the power of example,” Dr Cheetham said. “Parents need to be in tune with their emotions – it’s not what you say, it’s what you do. And this means not having an episode of road rage on the way to taking your son to get his learners.”
If you think about it, this is an age old principle. Walk the talk and so on. I suppose, though, that in this day and age of indulgence, we can always use a reminder like this book. Now here is my question: Are you a grown up parent?