Kids need to be independent and responsible as they grow up. What better way to do this than to give them household chores which they can handle. Studies have shown that children who are given responsibility for tasks they can carry out are more likely to have a greater sense of family belongingness and develop confidence that they can contribute to life in a significant manner.
As a child grows, psychologists recommend adding new responsibilities instead of just spoiling them. Remember though to give them tasks that they can handle according to their age. For example, kids aged three to six can be asked to water the plants or clean up their own toys.
The reward and punishment system still works in this case. By all means, do praise your kids for their effort in fulfilling the simple tasks assigned to them regardless if the job is done properly or not. A big hug, a high five, a pat on the back will surely go a long way in teaching responsibility among children. It will give them a good feeling for what they’ve done.
On the other hand, make sure not to frighten the young ones if they do not finish their tasks. This will only discourage them from learning their responsibilities. Just let them experience the consequences of their not being able to complete the task by, for instance, not granting a privilege of watching television for that day. Be firm in giving them the necessary punishment.
A parent’s guidance and example are indeed vital in maintaining this kind of training in the house. Once you have started this system, you may need to remind them from time to time about their tasks.
[tags]parenting, family, childcare[/tags]
Originally posted on August 3, 2006 @ 4:29 pm