No, thankfully not mine, but when it happens to people close to you. My daughter sees it on television and I’ve explained it in concept – “when mommies and daddies can’t get along… are fighting too much, and wont live together anymore…” etc etc..
But what I find harder is when a new person comes into the scene. Later today, my Mother is coming to visit us with her new “friend”. In her 50’s, she’s decided to leave her husband of 15 years (my stepdad, whose also been married 3 times before), because she says that for the first time ever, this new guy is making her feel things she never felt before.
Without wanting to be the judgemental, moralistic daughter (okay, so I am a bit), I cant help but feel VERY uncomfortable about the whole affair. Things arent really tied up with my Stepdad yet, and yet here comes my children’s Grandmother, passing by for coffee en route to the resort down the road where they’ll be spending the weekend – like its the most normal thing in the world!
I tried to explain to my daughter who this person her Grandma was coming with – a friend who was a doctor and that they were going to the resort to meditate and do yoga (something my Mother is passionate about and her ex-to-be wasnt, but this guy is – get it now?). She took it with a grain of salt, but I do wonder what will go through her 4-year old- mind when they arrive later.