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Unique Halloween Party Ideas for Kids

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Halloween is coming up once again and by now, most parents with small children are already cooking up fun ideas on how to throw a party. The party needs to be different from the past years to make it more exciting for your kids and their friends. With numerous kids party ideas for Halloween available today, it’s best to hold a not-so-common gathering that children will always remember.

Planning is very important. This is the stage where you do your research and decide on the theme as well as other details of your Halloween event.

The theme is very important as this is where you’ll focus your decorations, food, games and party favors. You can browse on the internet for some themes but if you have something unique in mind, don’t hesitate to use it. Online these days, what you will find are the most popular and common party ideas such as the scary monster, vampire and jack-o-lantern. They’ve been used over and over again so it would be a good idea to come up with your own.

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Why Choose Cancun for your Next Family Vacation

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Mexico is a popular tourist destination that attracts millions of visitors each year, notably during the summer season. This country boasts of beautiful cities one of which is Cancun.

Cancun is situated on the southeastern part of Mexico off the Caribbean sea. It is home to some of the world’s most amazing white sand beaches.

One of the major factors why this place is frequented by tourists is its tropical climate. But although it may be warm there, the sea breeze makes the temperature more moderate and thereby bearable. As the city enjoys much sunshine throughout the year, people from the different parts of the world often choose to vacation here.

While in Cancun, visitors can check out various interesting places not found anywhere else. One is the underwater art museum known as MUSA in the National Marine Park. This tourist spot created by English sculptor by Jason deCaires Taylor features life-size sculptures. They’re not there merely as art works but they serve as a reef structure where marine creatures can live.
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The Easiest Halloween Dracula Cake Ever

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Vampire Cake
I admit that baking a fancy cake is not my forte. I’m from the school of Mums who make those “it-tastes-yummy-but-doesn’t-look-it” cakes at home. Luckily my sister is a wonderful baker, so when I need something really good I know where to go. The thing is, she doesn’t make this sort of thing – sugar loaded, multi colored characters meant for kids – but more genteel desserts like her to-die-for “Tres Leches” mini cakes, or the german chocolate, richly laden with coconut, a slice of which still sits on my fridge (beckoning) from her Bday lunch.

So to satisfy my little Goth’s request for a Dracula Cake this Halloween, I’ve been on a mission to find the easiest recipe for Dracula cake out there. And here it is (adapted from Piece of Cake Decorating):

Ingredients:

2 10 inch round cakes (to get into the spirit of things, use Red Velvet)
Green, black, yellow/gold and white buttercream icing
4 Tips # 5 – *Ready-made black is better, as mixing your own is extremely difficult!

*** Tip*** If you do not have four #5 tips, do not worry. You will get the same effect using tips #4 or 6. If you do not want to use a tip at all, just cut the end of the piping bag to size. It will work just as well but your lines will not be as tight. This techniques works best for piping the eyes and nose because of their shape.

Directions:

1. Level, tort and fill the cakes. They can be placed on a 12 or 14 inch cake board. In this picture, the cake is placed on a large cake board (in the pic, Pillsbury Pumpkin Sugar Cookies scattered around for added decoration). Ice the cake with your green buttercream icing.

2. Using a toothpick, outline the vampire’s hair. Next, using tip #5 and black buttercream icing, pipe the outline of the hair and fill in with tight lines.

***Tip*** To smooth out the striped effect you get from filling in an outline using a piping bag, simply put a little cornstarch on your finger and gently pat it flat. Most of the cornstarch will fade into the icing but the excess can be brushed away with a decorating brush.

3. Using tip # 5 and yellow icing, pipe the eyes on the cake. Add the pupils using the extra black icing.

4. Using tip # 5 and green icing, pipe the nose. Next, add the mouth and eyebrows with the left over black icing and the teeth (tip #5) with white icing.

As with most cake mixes, do be aware that monosodium glutamate will be used, an additive helps to bring out natural flavors and make it taste better. Despite many reports from amateurs to the contrary, this is a completely safe ingredient to use- as affirmed by the FDA and many other regulators and scientific agencies around the world.

Halloween Traditions (to start with your kids!)

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Halloween Spirit
If you have a young family like me, holidays are very special, and the perfect time to make memories to last a lifetime. My husband and I grew up in different parts of the world, and for him, in the English countryside, Halloween didn’t exist! And so, for the past few years (since our kids have been old enough to notice!), we’ve been creating Halloween activities that are fast becoming traditions, things that our children expect and look forward to every year. For families like ours with young kids (8, 5, 2 and one on the way), you can start with simple things, which I’ve listed below – just keep away from the too gruesome or scary!

1. Decorate Your Home – I love this part, and so do the kids. This year, our 2-year-old joined us for the first time and it was great seeing all three kids take the task so seriously! Look out for “after-Halloween” sales to find the best bargains.

2. Bake Cookies and do Crafts – The kids love this too, me not so much :-). Well, I’m heavily pregnant and the mess isn’t so fun. But the kids do enjoy it, so I just try and do one of each. This year we are making ghost cookies ( using a sugar cookie mix and ghost cutters I bought on sale last year). For crafts, check out Kaboose or Activity Village for some easy ideas.

3. Buy and Carve Pumpkins – Every year my daughter and I go to the annual girls scouts pumpkin patch sale to choose our pumpkins. Then Daddy (who never carved anything in his life before this) carves them out while the kids help scoop out the seeds. It’s become a family Halloween tradition!

4. Watch Scary Movies – My husband came home today with no less than 4 scary movies (and a few family-friendly ones for the younger kids) we plan to watch over the long weekend. One of them was the original Nightmare on Elm Street – yikes!

5. Throw a Halloween Party! – This is the most fun thing of all, and for the past 2 years, one of my best girlfriends and I have been co-hosting one for our kids (and their friends). So far, they’ve been a great success and something our kids (and their friends!) ask about every Halloween. Will post more tips on this soon!

Photo via mike r baker

Our Little Goth

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Baby Dracula
Our 2 year old boy is a mini goth. The strange thing is that our son looks absolutely angelic with a mop of light brown curls, milky skin, rosy round cheeks and a rosebud mouth – so it’s become somewhat of an ironic family joke.

His first word was “mask” – referring to the small collection of Balinese and Sri Lankan masks in my husband’s office, which I think terrified and fascinated him all at once. He’d always point at them and want to be carried up for a closer view, only to cling to us in terror (mock?) after he got a good look. Not one for Sesame Street, Barney or Thomas (unlike his 2 elder siblings) His went straight from Baby Einstein to Nightmare Before Christmas. Corpse Bride, Coraline…he just loves Tim Burton’s works, and can you guess what his all-time favorite song is? Not “The Wheels on the Bus” or “If You’re Happy and You Know it”…..but “Monster Mash”. Click here for his favourite version: Monster Mash. In fact, if he sees me on my laptop, he’ll crawl on my lap and say “watch Monster Mash” until I stop whatever I’m doing and log on to YouTube.

So you can imagine that Halloween came early to our house this year. The sheer delight on his face was precious as we unpacked our boxes of Halloween decorations and he pretty much took charge (directing his 8 and 5 year old siblings of course) of placing every pumpkin, ghoul or ghost in choice locations in and outside the house. “Its Halloween! Its Halloween!” he says excitedly every morning when he comes out of his bedroom and looks at our spider-webbed stairway and tall witch on the landing.

He’s also quite firmly told me that his costume is NOT going to be the Cat and the Hat his elder siblings both wore at his age. “I be Dracula, Mom”. Oh, and he has also demanded for his choice of Halloween cake several times a day, telling both me and his Daddy ” I want Dracula Cake”. It’s hard to say no with that angelic little face and his naturally affectionate disposition. So tonight, as I tucked him into bed (Jack Skellington stuffed toy in his arms), I just couldn’t resist but whisper that Mommy would indeed get him that Dracula cake for Halloween. Help!

Photo via nicandres

My Parenting Resolutions For 2010

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no electronicsYear in and year out, people get all worked up about making resolutions for the New Year. I have to admit that I am one of them. I just like planning (even if just a little bit) on trying to become a better person. Of course, being a parent is an aspect that I can never ignore, and parenting resolutions are always part of the deal. This year, I have come up with a few resolutions that I would like to give a try. Let me share them with you and let me know what you think.

Have one “distraction-free” day a week. It can even be once a month. The idea is that each member of the family can get to enjoy each other’s company without the usual distractions of TV, video games, computers, and other similar things. Reading together, playing together, preparing meals and eating together – simply communication directly. This should improve relationships between all of us and lessen our dependence on external objects.

Learn to stop being a “fixer.” I have to admit it: I like to fix things and rescue people. I am solution-oriented, and if there is something that is not right, I will immediately do something about it. I guess a lot of parents have the same attitude, especially when it comes to their children. We want to make sure that the children do not have to suffer unnecessarily. We want to do things for our children so that they will have it easy. But you know what? When they get older, they will have to do things on their own. We should help them prepare for that day, and rescuing them all the time is not going to achieve that. Next year, I want to reign myself in in terms of being the rescuer of my kids. That’s not to say that I will stop doing things for them – I am THE mom after all; but my kids will learn to be more independent if I have anything to do with it.

Encourage a healthier lifestyle. From healthier eating to more physical activities – these are things that some children are missing out. We haven’t had too many issues in this regard, but I want to pay more attention to living a healthy lifestyle. Next year, I want my children to experience this lifestyle more in the hopes that they will carry it all throughout their adulthood.

What are your parenting resolutions for 2010?

Should We Encourage Belief In Santa?

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2158.jpgAfter writing that post on cancelling Christmas, another controversial thought came to mind: is it right for us, parents, to encourage our children to believe in Santa? We all know (well, adults at least) that Santa is not real, a myth. There are even children who know and acknowledge this; but we cannot deny the thrill that ran through our veins when, as children, we would anxiously await what Santa was going to give us every Christmas.

On the one hand, we know that we are allowing our children to be kids and enjoy the magic of the season. The rationale is that even if Santa is not a real person, he does exist in spirit. Whenever a person exercises generosity of spirit without expecting anything in return, isn’t that something that Santa would do?

On the other hand, perpetuating the myth can be likened to lying to the kids. We already know that this person does not exist as we do, and yet we use him to make our children happy. We might even invoke his name when we want our children to behave.

I am sure that more than one of you guys has had these thoughts at least once. Did you ever resolve the issue?

Me, I think that I shall stick to allowing my kids to believe that Santa does exist. At least for now. They have all their adult lives to know the real deal. They will have 30, 40, even 50 years to spend knowing that Santa is really just daddy and mommy. Why spoil their childhood when they are clearly enjoying the wait and anticipation associated with Santa and his gifts?

I believe that allowing the Santa myth to go on is one way of nurturing their childhood innocence, their sense of wonder at certain things. Again, when they reach the age of 10 (maybe earlier for some), they will certainly learn the truth. It’s just like with many other things in life – children will have to grow up and learn that life is not all roses; but do we hurry up and destroy their innocence before we absolutely have to? I don’t think so. It’s the same thing with Santa. The kids are enjoying the whole idea – let them. When they start getting confused and start asking questions, then let’s deal with it. For now, why not enjoy the wonder and amazement in their eyes?

What About Cancelling Christmas?

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find-santa-claus-10I remember a conversation I had with a friend, which happened many years ago, very clearly to this day. We were talking about how some parents “kill Santa” for their kids. This memory was brought to mind afresh just minutes ago as I was reading an article written by Lorraine Sommerfeld. Titled “Tough love parenting: Parents who cancelled Christmas,” the article talks about “extreme” measures that some parents take in order to straighten out unmanageable kids.

She talked about some stories of parents “cancelling Christmas:”

I wonder how many would feature tales like the year my mother cancelled Christmas.

Mournful little girls had to wait until noon to get their stockings, which had indeed been taken down and hidden. Mom was bigger than Santa Claus.

But a reader topped that one, too. Michael told me that the week before Christmas, his father went outside, shot twice into the air with a .22 rifle, then came back in and told two rowdy lads he’d killed Santa. My mother, apparently, had only delayed him.

This got me thinking…would I ever take on the tough love parenting stance to the extreme and do something such as cancelling Christmas? I cannot imagine myself telling our little ones that I have asked Santa not to drop by because they are behaving inappropriately, much less tell them I killed him. I suppose though, that cancelling Christmas can take on various forms.

Our Christmas plans are already set for the year, and the kids are not proving to be more trouble than they normally are, so I doubt that I will have the need to practice this kind of tough love this season. The article did give me some ideas on how we can give Christmas a little twist.

Perhaps, instead of getting all those presents from us on Christmas, we can ask them to pick out all the things they want to give away and then organize a little party for the less fortunate kids. That’s not exactly cancelling Christmas but teaches the kids a life lesson.

Anyhow, going back to tough love parenting…I find it particularly interesting that “frightening” children has a psychological and behavioral basis. Sommerfeld wrote that this is “the chance for kids to develop a behavioural conscience. What they see is that their actions have pushed Mom past a reasonable point. They will read past the content to the deeper meaning – there will be consequences for those actions.”

Reflecting on that more, I am beginning to see her point. Remember my 4-year-old rebel? Should I go out on a limb and try this out?

Christmas Comes Early this Year: Decorating The Tree!

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Christmas Tree

As we are now definitely spending our Christmas abroad, I’ve decided to let Christmas come early to our home. With our tickets booked on the 18th, and the business of shopping, school events and get-togethers looming, it made sense to start things early before the rush, when things go into full throttle after Thanksgiving. So over the weekend, we got the boxes of decorations out from storage and started the long, fun and sometimes emotional process of decorating. As Alvin and the Chipmunks played in the background, we managed to decorate the tree in a little over an hour, with just two fights, one tantrum and two broken ornaments. The smallest member of the family, our nearly-two Will, was especially adorable. With a very serious expression, he methodically placed ornaments on the bottom boughs of our tree, one after the other, for almost an hour, oblivious to everything else – which included his elder siblings arguments and tears (“That was my ornament!” or “He pushed me!”).

The rest of the holiday bits and bobs (the ceramic Gingerbread houses, the nativity set from Mexico etc) are slowly but surely finding their places, and hopefully I’ll get to decorating the staircase garland when I finish this post. If you haven’t started your Christmas decorating, check out these great tips I found below, which will should help get your family’s holiday season off to a good start!

Decorating the Tree – From always putting the lights first, to how you should stock up on cheaper ornament “fillers” and where you should place things for optimum effect – here are some very sensible tips to remember every year.

Get The Lights Right – Lights can make a huge difference in the overall look of your tree. Being safe is also essential. Learn how to do both right.

Making Your Own Decorations – This is a wonderful way to make the holidays even more special, especially if this is an activity you do as a family. Making ornaments is the easiest way to start, and if you have access to natural materials, you could be braver and make the bigger-ticket items like garlands and swags.

And lastly, make some house rules before you start. As kids get older every year, things change, so its good to lay down some method and rules beforehand to minimize the tears and arguments. For example, everyone takes turns to pick their 3 favorite ornaments first…and so on. My kids love Christmas so much that they get overly-excited, which, more often than not leads to emotions running high.

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