It is said that there are basically two ways by which a child can be motivated to do what is required of him or her. There is the so-called negative motivation through punishment and there is the positive motivation through the rewards system. In creating a rewards system, parents or the adults responsible for instilling discipline in children will be teaching them to check themselves to earn privileges.
When we speak of children loving one more parent than the other, we are doing so in a context that goes beyond favoritism. Favoritism can be as simple as preferring one parent more in going to specific places or doing some activities. This can go both ways at any point in time and is generally not something to be bothered about. Loving one parent more than the other however can be a sign of serious falling out on the part of the child due to some complex undercurrent in family life.
Nothing disturbs the inner peace more of a parent than to catch one’s own child lying. It creates doubt and fear in the hearts of parents knowing that a child found it necessary to purposely hide the truth. Catching a child lie is not resolved in any way by parents going into panic or punisher mode. There are better ways of doing it which will ensure that children and parents learn from what appears to be a negative experience.
Children are Generally Truthful
Adults should be very familiar with the candidness and truthfulness of young children at the risk of exposing their own half-truths. Most of the time, it can be very funny when children expose things for what they really are since they only speak of what they see and know. Children generally do not lie unless they think they have to and this is where parents should be able to guide them as much as possible.
Children get their cue primarily from their parents. They tend to imitate adults so it would be wise for parents to be very cautious of how they deal with their own declarations. In some cases, children lie under threat of harm so parents should be very sensitive in detecting anything unusual in their child’s actions. [Read more…] about What to Do When You Catch Your Child Lying
The most common diseases and illnesses encountered by children and adults such as colds, cough, and flu are not exactly easy to prevent but they can be. Successful prevention would entail awareness and hygiene practices based on common sense. There are many childhood diseases that are sought to be prevented through vaccines but for illnesses that strike much more frequently than others, there are some precautionary measures that can be taken that will ensure more protection especially for young children.
Sending off young children to big school may still require extra preparation. This is even with the fact that these children are not going to school for the first time. However, pre-school is a lot different from primary school and this very difference may cause some anxiety on the part of the child. Parents can do a lot to help ease those anxieties by taking into consideration the different needs of an elementary student from a kindergarten student.
Based on my own experience, I think there are at least three things parents should do to make the transition easier for a child. Elementary students are expected to be more independent than their pre-school counterparts. For children who have gone through pre-school with a lot of assistance from teachers, the higher expectations may not sink in right away. [Read more…] about Preparing Your Child for Big School
It is said that children are the most trusting people in the world. In the general sense, this is probably true. On a more personal level though, it takes more than being related or being known to a child to gain his or her continuing trust.
In the traditional way of bringing up children, parents are expected to earn their trust by the responsibilities performed in the name of parenthood. It is impossible for trust not to develop as children feel the care and love that can only come from parents. In the course of bringing up a child however, there may be hindrances and obstacles that can come up that can create doubts and mistrust. [Read more…] about How to Gain a Child’s Trust
To spank or not to spank- that is the proverbial question that needs to be answered by each and every parent confronted with the need to discipline a child. Many have used the bible verse “Spare the rod and spoil the child” to support their approval of spanking. Others see the greater harm of inflicting pain as a way of obtaining obedience from a child. So where should parents go?
For a start,parents generally want the best for their children. Yes, even the spanking ones. Many do it in the belief that it is for the good of their children. There is no question that children need to be disciplined. However, there is likewise a need to consider the long term effects of whatever disciplinary action is chosen especially if it involves physically hurting a child. [Read more…] about To Spank or Not to Spank – That is the Question
Questions like “Where do babies come from?” are discomfiting enough for some parents to answer even in the comfort of one’s home. Imagine if the same question is asked in public. What if the questions seem to border on rudeness like “Why is that woman fat?”, and within hearing of the person being referred to? And how, pray-tell is a mother supposed to answer a young daughter who is questioning the different way her father pees?
It can be pretty challenging and nerve-wracking to be confronted with a child’s questions especially when there is enough audience to make the situation monumentally embarrassing. It is usually not only the content of the question that is embarrassing but also the timing. That is how it is with children though. We never know when they will strike so parents will just have to be ready when they do come. Here are some reasons why embarrassing questions are aired and the recommended way of dealing with them. [Read more…] about When Children Ask Embarrassing Questions
I haven’t come across a parent who wouldn’t want the best for his or her child. Truth be told, most of the parents I know now are really into participative and involved parenting. They (including myself) would be present at every school presentation or competition, feverishly helping children finish their projects, and egging them on to get high grades and honors. It is no longer uncommon for some parents to envision their child to be the next matinee idol or super model and doing everything in their power to achieve this. Many refer to this extraordinary effort to push a child to achievement limits as stage parenting.
There are definite pitfalls in stage parenting and here are the three major ones. [Read more…] about The Three Major Pitfalls of Stage Parenting