Comments on: The Art Of Listening http://www.parenting-blog.net/teens/the-art-of-listening/ ...best job in the world Mon, 16 Jan 2012 17:28:05 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Bart Lewis - Parents, Geeks & God http://www.parenting-blog.net/teens/the-art-of-listening/comment-page-1/#comment-5071 Bart Lewis - Parents, Geeks & God Wed, 09 Apr 2008 06:12:40 +0000 http://www.parenting-blog.net/teens/the-art-of-listening/#comment-5071 I'm actually doing a series now on communication between parents and their kids. It's hard to believe, but so many parents truly don't know how to listen to their teenagers. Great post, very informative! I’m actually doing a series now on communication between parents and their kids. It’s hard to believe, but so many parents truly don’t know how to listen to their teenagers.

Great post, very informative!

]]> By: Mark http://www.parenting-blog.net/teens/the-art-of-listening/comment-page-1/#comment-5058 Mark Mon, 07 Apr 2008 13:16:32 +0000 http://www.parenting-blog.net/teens/the-art-of-listening/#comment-5058 Listening is a real art, isn't it? Whether it's adults or kids. I was actually on a training course last year where we did an hour-long session on how to listen. You really don't know how hard it is until you've been made to sit down and listen to someone with a five-minute timer and requirement to not talk yourself (apart from offering assent). He advised: 1) Sit naturally and, if you can, put your feet flat on the floor. 2) Make good eye contact. 3) Have open body language. 4) Never, ever, interrupt and this can be viewed as devaluing what the other person has to say. The aim is to make the other person feel like there's nothing more important in the world at that moment than what they have to say. Listening is a real art, isn’t it? Whether it’s adults or kids. I was actually on a training course last year where we did an hour-long session on how to listen. You really don’t know how hard it is until you’ve been made to sit down and listen to someone with a five-minute timer and requirement to not talk yourself (apart from offering assent).

He advised:

1) Sit naturally and, if you can, put your feet flat on the floor.
2) Make good eye contact.
3) Have open body language.
4) Never, ever, interrupt and this can be viewed as devaluing what the other person has to say.

The aim is to make the other person feel like there’s nothing more important in the world at that moment than what they have to say.

]]> By: Lara http://www.parenting-blog.net/teens/the-art-of-listening/comment-page-1/#comment-5046 Lara Sun, 06 Apr 2008 08:13:57 +0000 http://www.parenting-blog.net/teens/the-art-of-listening/#comment-5046 I really like this "principle of eliciting." It not only avoids being seen as a dictator but helps our children to realize things on their own as well. :) I really like this “principle of eliciting.” It not only avoids being seen as a dictator but helps our children to realize things on their own as well. :)

]]> By: Dr. Robyn Silverman http://www.parenting-blog.net/teens/the-art-of-listening/comment-page-1/#comment-5021 Dr. Robyn Silverman Thu, 03 Apr 2008 23:45:57 +0000 http://www.parenting-blog.net/teens/the-art-of-listening/#comment-5021 I often advise parents to ask questions of their children instead of lecture. It always reveals so much more about what a child is thinking when we listen to what they have to say instead of telling them how to think. You might ask, "but what if you really want to make a point?" When a parent really wants to make a point, it's best to ask a guided question and allow your child to answer in his own words. For example, you might ask, "how can we share the game between 2 people?" The child can answer, "we can take turns so it's fair for everyone." I joke with my readers- "If an adult says it, it can be challenged, but if the child says it himself, it must be the truth!" Just another way to be a positive role model to children. http://drrobyn.wordpress.com/2008/03/31/powerful-role-models-seven-ways-to-make-a-positive-impact-on-children/ Thanks- Dr. Robyn I often advise parents to ask questions of their children instead of lecture. It always reveals so much more about what a child is thinking when we listen to what they have to say instead of telling them how to think.

You might ask, “but what if you really want to make a point?” When a parent really wants to make a point, it’s best to ask a guided question and allow your child to answer in his own words.

For example, you might ask, “how can we share the game between 2 people?” The child can answer, “we can take turns so it’s fair for everyone.”

I joke with my readers- “If an adult says it, it can be challenged, but if the child says it himself, it must be the truth!”

Just another way to be a positive role model to children.
http://drrobyn.wordpress.com/2008/03/31/powerful-role-models-seven-ways-to-make-a-positive-impact-on-children/

Thanks-
Dr. Robyn

]]> By: The best trait of a Parent « A Young persons perspective to parenting http://www.parenting-blog.net/teens/the-art-of-listening/comment-page-1/#comment-5000 The best trait of a Parent « A Young persons perspective to parenting Thu, 03 Apr 2008 07:39:51 +0000 http://www.parenting-blog.net/teens/the-art-of-listening/#comment-5000 [...] parenting-blog also wrote about listening, the link is here, worth a [...] [...] parenting-blog also wrote about listening, the link is here, worth a [...]

]]> By: munashe http://www.parenting-blog.net/teens/the-art-of-listening/comment-page-1/#comment-4999 munashe Thu, 03 Apr 2008 07:35:56 +0000 http://www.parenting-blog.net/teens/the-art-of-listening/#comment-4999 i enjoyed this post, thanks i enjoyed this post, thanks

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