Comments on: Dealing With Your Child’s Anxiety Problems http://www.parenting-blog.net/relationships/dealing-with-your-child%e2%80%99s-anxiety-problems/ ...best job in the world Mon, 16 Jan 2012 17:28:05 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Claudine Struck http://www.parenting-blog.net/relationships/dealing-with-your-child%e2%80%99s-anxiety-problems/comment-page-1/#comment-59236 Claudine Struck Fri, 22 Jan 2010 20:05:06 +0000 http://www.parenting-blog.net/relationships/dealing-with-your-child%e2%80%99s-anxiety-problems/#comment-59236 Listen to your child's concerns, and let him see that you are taking steps to address his expressed needs in your planning and expectations. During your conversations about his concerns, you can give him practical information to counteract irrational fears and worries. Listen to your child's concerns, and let him see that you are taking steps to address his expressed needs in your planning and expectations. During your conversations about his concerns, you can give him practical information to counteract irrational fears and worries. http://childparenting.about.com/cs/disorders/a/childanxiety.htm "Claudine Struck “The Stress Expert” author of “How to Stay Sane When Life Isn’t.” If you are ready to make you a priority, cultivate healthy relationships and live a more sane, happier life then this inspirational and unique approach to integrating mind, body spirit is for you. . Get free tips and yoga mp3 download now at www.staysanenow.com" Listen to your child’s concerns, and let him see that you are taking steps to address his expressed needs in your planning and expectations. During your conversations about his concerns, you can give him practical information to counteract irrational fears and worries.
Listen to your child’s concerns, and let him see that you are taking steps to address his expressed needs in your planning and expectations. During your conversations about his concerns, you can give him practical information to counteract irrational fears and worries. http://childparenting.about.com/cs/disorders/a/childanxiety.htm

“Claudine Struck “The Stress Expert” author of “How to Stay Sane When Life Isn’t.” If you are ready to make you a priority, cultivate healthy relationships and live a more sane, happier life then this inspirational and unique approach to integrating mind, body spirit is for you. . Get free tips and yoga mp3 download now at http://www.staysanenow.com“

]]> By: mark http://www.parenting-blog.net/relationships/dealing-with-your-child%e2%80%99s-anxiety-problems/comment-page-1/#comment-24679 mark Tue, 02 Dec 2008 02:18:25 +0000 http://www.parenting-blog.net/relationships/dealing-with-your-child%e2%80%99s-anxiety-problems/#comment-24679 well i ought to not that im not a parent and wont be anytime soon, im a 16 y/o boy looking into some of my issues it was recommended that i should look at symptoms of anxiety i suffer none of the physical symptoms and all of the emotional ones. and i find that nothing is more aggravating than those who push help onto me in my times of heavy anxiety. my parents dont want me to seek help or find if i do truely have anxiety because they hold me so highly and this contributes to my issues everytime i feel like im falling short of standards set by my sister and yet she is the only one who understands me and the only one i truly love being with. well i ought to not that im not a parent and wont be anytime soon, im a 16 y/o boy looking into some of my issues it was recommended that i should look at symptoms of anxiety i suffer none of the physical symptoms and all of the emotional ones. and i find that nothing is more aggravating than those who push help onto me in my times of heavy anxiety. my parents dont want me to seek help or find if i do truely have anxiety because they hold me so highly and this contributes to my issues everytime i feel like im falling short of standards set by my sister and yet she is the only one who understands me and the only one i truly love being with.

]]> By: Lara http://www.parenting-blog.net/relationships/dealing-with-your-child%e2%80%99s-anxiety-problems/comment-page-1/#comment-5179 Lara Sun, 27 Apr 2008 13:51:13 +0000 http://www.parenting-blog.net/relationships/dealing-with-your-child%e2%80%99s-anxiety-problems/#comment-5179 Good point - finding that balance could be quite difficult, however. Do you have any ideas on how to determine which way to go, so to speak? Good point – finding that balance could be quite difficult, however. Do you have any ideas on how to determine which way to go, so to speak?

]]> By: Kristen McClure http://www.parenting-blog.net/relationships/dealing-with-your-child%e2%80%99s-anxiety-problems/comment-page-1/#comment-5169 Kristen McClure Sat, 26 Apr 2008 15:20:22 +0000 http://www.parenting-blog.net/relationships/dealing-with-your-child%e2%80%99s-anxiety-problems/#comment-5169 I believe that anxious children, just like anxious adults, need support and acceptance, however, there is definitely a danger of parents enabling or exacerbating anxiety by reinforcing it. If for example, a child has school phobia, is afraid or hesitant to go to school, and the parent allows the the child to stay home, that strengthens the anxiety and fear of school. A similar dynamic can occur if a child has social fears or fears of sleeping alone. If a child begins to express fear of the dark and you allow them to come sleep with you one night, they are going to want to sleep with you every night! Better to get them a night light, discuss their fears with them, and put other plans in place to dispel their anxiety. I have seen this happen time and time again. However, pushing a child and failing to understand the anxiety, or punishing the child can also exacerbate the anxiety. I have seen parents who don't understand a child's social anxiety become embarrassed and angry with the child in those situations. That is not helpful either. Every child is different, but parents must strike a balance between compassion and understanding their child disorder and enabling it. In working with anxiety I always explain this dynamic to kids too. It is important to acknowledge and understand a child's anxiety, but also to reassure them at the onset that they can conquer the anxiety. I believe that anxious children, just like anxious adults, need support and acceptance, however, there is definitely a danger of parents enabling or exacerbating anxiety by reinforcing it.

If for example, a child has school phobia, is afraid or hesitant to go to school, and the parent allows the the child to stay home, that strengthens the anxiety and fear of school. A similar dynamic can occur if a child has social fears or fears of sleeping alone. If a child begins to express fear of the dark and you allow them to come sleep with you one night, they are going to want to sleep with you every night! Better to get them a night light, discuss their fears with them, and put other plans in place to dispel their anxiety. I have seen this happen time and time again.

However, pushing a child and failing to understand the anxiety, or punishing the child can also exacerbate the anxiety. I have seen parents who don’t understand a child’s social anxiety become embarrassed and angry with the child in those situations. That is not helpful either. Every child is different, but parents must strike a balance between compassion and understanding their child disorder and enabling it. In working with anxiety I always explain this dynamic to kids too. It is important to acknowledge and understand a child’s anxiety, but also to reassure them at the onset that they can conquer the anxiety.

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